As a woman, you have a self respect to attain, contain, and maintain. WHY on earth should u beat up or confront a girl because of a man, we should be more like families, you do not see a tiger fighting another tiger over a zebra, they join forces. My first boyfriend broke my heart and i was devastated, depressed and all, yes i wanted to kill him and i meant it, but, on the other hand my self respect was on the line and i had to be strong, when he had a new girl, i wanted to drown them both in acid but like i said, my self respect was astake so i held myself and kept on praying and with the help of my darling and sweet cousin i was getting better, it's been two years now and i am as strong as ever, i didn't go harassing the girl, a point came when we spoke which was not arranged but we did for some reason and it was cool and gradually things became better and i was free. Look, it was not easy for me at all but one special thing that helped was the bible, someone l